If we ask, “Who wants change?”, most people raise their hand and say “YES!!!”. Most of us would appreciate better schools, better pay, a better work environment, better and less expensive healthcare, a more effective and responsive government. The list could go on and on.
When we ask, “Who WANTS to change?”, almost all the hands stay down. This isn’t really strange or surprising, but it is illogical. How can we possibly have change in our society without our changing individually as well?
Change is hard, whether we attempt it individually or collectively. Why? Throughout life we have learned most change that is forced on us is change that threatens our control in one or more important aspects of life. We might be a little unsure or nervous about significant changes we choose (building a big new home or moving across country in a job promotion), but we feel most changes of this sort enhance our life. We perceive that most involuntary change diminishes control.
The major problem with a “change is bad” mindset, is that we can’t grow or advance in life if we resist change, even if that change temporarily upsets our applecart. It is common for us to hear our friends and clients moan about a loss or change in their life they perceive as detrimental, only to hear back from them months later about how wonderful their life is and how the change turned out to be a huge advantage.
As human beings, we are built for change in our DNA. We crave advancement and embrace the new, often after we suffer through a period of adjustment and needless worry.
Developing greater self-awareness can make all the difference in the world, leading us away from stress and toward satisfaction and happiness. Dr. Wayne Dyer often said, “When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change”. This is pretty great advice, don’t you think?
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